3 years sometimes feels like a long time- like when I think about everything we’ve done and experienced together since getting married. Or when I look at pictures of our wedding day and already feel like we look so much younger. And especially when I think how little we knew each other on that day.
3 years also feels like a really short time- like when I think about how I went to university for longer than that, or that I’ve been graduated from high school for 10 years this year (crap I’m old!), or when I think about long I plan on this marriage lasting…which is you know, forever.
This past year has been a crazy ride- we’ll probably say that every year- but it feels especially true this year. This time last year we were sitting at home with our baby who wasn’t even a week old yet. Now we have a very robust 1 year old ready to conquer the world, and another one on the way. Between surviving the first year raising a child and another pregnancy (which let’s just say I’m not one of those people that enjoy pregnancy…), we’re feeling, and probably looking, significantly more exhausted than previous years. Aside from just the daily challenges of family life, we’ve each had some unexpected life challenges this year that we never imagined happening.
However, all of the challenges, long and exhausting days, long and exhausting nights, and ups and down in-betweens somehow stitch together to create our marriage. The moments when both of us feel like crying, or screaming, or any other extreme emotion, but I see Tanner put my needs first create a pattern. A pattern of love and trust where I know even during the must challenging time- whether mundane challenging or extraordinarily challenging- he will be there to take care of me. Sometimes I fail at being this selfless, sometimes he does. But we’re a work in progress. Overall, I’m just so proud of this marriage, this family, we’ve created. I’m so grateful for the 3 years we’ve been given together, and I look forward to the people we will be become as we continue to work on it.
Thank you for being my soulmate Tanner, thank you for working toward an eternity together with me. Happy 3rd anniversary.